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Truth is everybody is going to hurt you, you just got to find the ones worth suffering.
Our sadness with your relationships form the essence of your life.
A life devoid of healthy and loving relations is a meaningless life because without loved ones, you have nobody to enjoy success with, share your sadness with or celebrate your life with.
If your relationships are strained and lifeless, this could be the reason why you stay gloomy and depressed. To be truly happy and delighted about life, it is crucial that you foster meaningful relationships.
By doing something as simple as adding emphasis a meaning in every important relationship in your life, you can make your life more valuable and amazing. Before you start improving your relationships, you first need to identify the people in your social circle who positively influence you and make you happy.
Jim was right. If you closely examine your personality and then look at the five people you hang out with the most, you will the most, you will notice that you have picked many habits, traits, qualities and shortcomings of all those five people. That is because when you spend lots of time with someone that person’s behavior start to influence you in some way whether you realize it or not.
Have you ever noticed how chirpy and cheerful you become after spending a few hours with highly spirited person or how gloomy you feel when you spend a day with a depressed person? The explanation behind this is that it is in your brain’s design to notice and adopt cue from your surrounding environment.
To be happy inside and out, you must surround yourself with the right sort of people. You should spend the most time with positive, happy, calm, confident, successful and honest people who uplift your spirits, encourage you to be better, inspire you to follow your dreams and provide you with healthy criticism that will help you grow.
At the same time, it is also important to distance yourself from naysayers. While healthy criticism is good for you and you need it to become the best you, naysayers do more than provide healthy criticism, they throw spears of frustration, gloominess, negativity and jealousy towards you.
Instead of encouraging you to be good, they constantly bombard you feel incompetent and inadequate. You do not need that influence in your life. To make life beautiful, filter your life of all the unhealthy influences and focus more on those who matter. Let go of regressive relationships and maintain progressive ones.
To do that, analyze all the people in your social circle, starting with those you hang out with most. Next, think of how they influence you and how they truly make you feel about yourself. If that influence is healthy and positive that person needs to say in your life. However, if that influence makes you feel terrible about yourself, detach yourself from that person, if not for good then at least until you become strong enough to not allow what people say influence you.
Start slowly distancing yourself from the negative influences in your life and hang around positive ones. Write done how you feel after making this change and within a week, you will notice a remarkable improvement in how you perceive your life. Your outlook towards life will change which is a fantastic achievement by itself.
Make this practice a consistent habit, constantly analyze how a certain person affects you and then use that to figure out whether to let go of or keep someone in your social contacts.
For instance, if you interact with the new, just hired marketing manager in your firm and feel that he inspires you, use this as a cue to build a good relationship with him, it is likely that he could help you in many ways.
You cannot be 100 percent immersed in success if you have people around you that constantly critic your decision and put you down. You will soon run out of steam with such people around you. But if you cannot distance yourself from them physically, at least you can do that mentally, just stop telling them what is happening in your life. Look for other things to talk about that don’t relate to what it is you are working towards to succeed.
Once you figure out which social contracts to keep and let go of, work on the following habits to improve your relationship with those people.
