Losses hurt so much

Sometimes you do win. But other times you get knocked down. The key is to figure out why you get knocked down, learn from it, get back up and move forward. That is how successful people win.

I bet if you have, it was from someone who was losing. Nobody likes to lose. Think of some of the losses in your life and how they made you feel. Not good. And it not just the pain of the moment that affects us. Ou losses also cause us other difficulties.

Loses are to be emotionally stuck: The good times we put in our pocket. The bad times we put in our heart. I have found that to be true in my life. In my heart I still carry some the bad times, I bet you do, too. The negative experiences affect us more deeply than positive ones and if you are like me, you may got emotionally stuck. Fear are debilitating emotions for the human heart. So are losses. It can weaken, imprison, paralyze and sicken us.

Losses cause us to be mentally defeated: It cannot be denied that our lives are filled with loss. Over the course of our adult lives, we lose jobs and positions. Our self-esteem may take a beating. We lose money. We miss opportunities. Friends and family die. And I do not even want to talk about some of the physical losses we experience with advancing age. Some losses are large, some are small. And the losses we face affect our mental health. Some people handle it well while others do not.

It defeat us and we have trouble coming up with solutions to our challenges. A the losses of yesterday. We fear the losses tomorrow. Regret spas our energy. We cannot build on regret. Fear for the future districts us and fills us with apprehension.

Losses create a gap: Winning crates a positive cycle n our lives. When we win, we gain confidence. The more confidence we have, the more likely we are t take action when it is needed. That inclination to more from knowing to action often brings success.

Losing can also create a cycle in our lives, a negative one. Losses, especially when they pile up, can lead to insecurity. When we insecure, we doubt ourselves. It causes us to hesitate when making decision. Even if we know that we should do, we are reluctant to do it. When such a gap is crated and is not overcome, success becomes nearly impossible.

First loss often is not the biggest loss: When we experience a loss, have a choice. If we immediately respond to it the right way, the loss becomes smaller to us. However, if we respond the wrong way or if we fail to respond at all that loss becomes greater. And it often leads to other losses. As the subsequent losses come at us, they seem to become bigger and bigger, crashing over us like waves in a violent storm. As the number of losses goes up, our self-confidence goes down.

We make matters worse wen we compare ourselves to others because we rarely do so on a level playing field. We either compare our best including our good intentions to either operate our best including our good intentions to someone else’s worst or we compare our worst to someone else’s best. That can led to a negative cycle of self-talk.